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Women 'can't have casual sex like men': Daily Mail joins the women-bashing


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Lock up your daughters, sisters, mums and mates! Casual sex can finally be revealed in all it's destructive glory by (wait for it...) The Daily Mail. Women, be warned.

Last week a report was unveiled that claimed women 'feel bad' after casual sex and are emotionally damaged by one-night stands, so they'd damn well better stop doing it. http://www.metro.co.uk/metrosexual/article.html?in_arti...

And now the Daily Mail has wheeled out some poor damaged girls to share their sob stories, and ram that moral lesson a little further down our throats. That's right people: the DM has Proved The Scientists Right.

One of the Mail's doe-eyed victims of the sexual revolution was apparently left feeling "worthless" and "emotionally destroyed" after a one-night stand, but it's ok, cos she understands now that men and women are *just different* and she's taken a vow of celibacy as a result.

And - how convenient! - the researcher cites basic, evolutionary biology as the reason that women just can't handle a one-nighter.

The DM can confirm that - lucky old things! - men are no more than their basic biological impulse to get down and dirty with anything that moves in order to spread their seed while women are better suited to... Well, staying at home, taking care of the kids, enjoying the odd monogamous shag when him indoors fancies meting it out, and seeming more attractive to said promiscuous male as a result.

Now, I *know* the Daily Mail's advice is in my best interests, but I just can't get my head around the idea (perhaps I need to think about it over the ironing) that because I'm a woman I'll naturally respond like the 'majority' of women to a one night stand (and 58% isn't much of a majority). Perhaps it's buried in my subconscious and I'm just too irrational to recognise it but, unless I'm confusing myself, I don't recall having responded to many experiences like *every other woman* in the world, just as I can't quite remember having responded to any given scenario like every other brunette, or every other bisexual woman, or every other deaf person.

The Mail's totally unbiased reporting tips the balance in this argument though - not only will putting it about with a number of 'Mr Wrongs' make you feel like crap, but it'll decrease your chances of ever meeting 'Mr Right' too! It's clearly not worth the risk. Thank you Daily Mail, for showing me the error of my ways.

Now where's that chastity belt... Oh yes. It's in the BIN. Along with any copies of the Daily Mail ever to have existed.
LindseyIndigo

90 responses // Women 'can't have casual sex like men': Daily Mail joins the women-bashing

  • Clearly the Daily Mail hasn't met some of the women i know..just saying
    sgirgis72
  • I guess this is where lesbians have an edge. I know many that, since they don't have to worry about all the things straight girls have to worry about, have lots of casual sex. They pick up each other, have sex, go home, life is good. Now I know what they mean that lesbians have brains like men.
    lucky2bme
    2 responses to this
  • Actually the girls I was referring to are straight...
    sgirgis72
  • Double standards ftw.

    This kind of shit goes on all the time, people tried to defend eugenics back in the day in the same way. People always try to pretend that there is some scientific basis for their dumbass prejudices.

    Sickening, but unfortunately typical and inevitable.
    Saladin
    1 response to this
  • Be safe. Have sex. When you want. With whomever you find is agreeable. As often as you can.

    Be totally legal, too. And aware and capable of handling the consequences: emotional, medical, and of course monetary (those one-night stands that stretch out to last for 18 years and end in a messy divorce.)

    As the most worthy Bill and Ted told us: "Be Excellent to each other, and Party ON, Dudes!"
    jahbini
  • I noticed this about society. A guy can have casual sex with women and be a lady's man or a stud or something, but a woman who has casual sex with men is a slut, whore, and many derogatory words.
    FallenMorgan
    5 responses to this
  • Now if only women were allowed on computers so they could read this...
    Brendan_M
  • watch this comment being used here, here, here, here, here and here
    Ugh I hate it when they use evolution as some sort of an excuse like men can ran around with no shame and have sex with anyone, while girls cant.
    ctrl_alt_del
    1 response to this
  • I find the "hook-up" culture repugnant and it will inevitably fail due to its nature; hyper-sexualized men and women using each other as objects. Sexual objectification is the pursuit of transference of emotional states or out-right disregard of one's own or another's emotions. Only when we can accept our feelings for ourselves can we begin to cherish another and share intimacies. Sex in the absence of emotional connectivity is the cause of distress and an acknowledgment of immaturity. Yet, I digress. Let these pitiful people find their own way.
    Kewara81
    3 responses to this
  • "pursuit of transference of emotional states," and "accept our feelings for ourselves," "absence of emotional connectivity," "acknowledgement of immaturity"

    Sounds like someone has read too much psychobabble, and may wish to jam it down our all too gullible throats.

    However, digressing back to the central issue: "Let these people ... find their own way" is the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. Thanks for that important comment and it needs to be cherished.

    The ... (value judgement deleted) simply means that I just can't agree that they "pitiful," Only on a learning path like all the rest of us.
    jahbini
  • I've heard a lot of reasoning for behavior based on evolutionary bioglogy. My college science teacher taught us that the reason men like big boobs is because those women are more likely to produce better maternal milk, and large hips mean she will have a better outcome of giving birth to a healthy child. And although it may make sense, theres no reason it can't be considered REDICULOUS
    hollowman218
    2 responses to this
  • I think women do sometimes feel bad after one night stands, but I KNOW there are guys that feel that way too... they just don't express it as much.

    People do what they want to do. If you hook up, and feel bad about it, then don't do it again... If you're at a place where you are comfortable with it and protect yourself, go for it! But stop taking pity on women... it's their choice too!!!!
    KosterK7
  • Well, women do tend to be less promiscuous. So the men that are banging a lot of chicks are probably banging the same chicks.

    I'm pretty sure that there are men that are hurt by one-nighters, and there are women that rather have them instead of involved relationships.

    Whatever you choose to do, just stay safe. Emotionally and physically.
    CarlosIsDown
  • So what does that say about me if I've felt bad after one night stands?

    I think you run the risk of feeling guilty for ANYthing you do that's impulsive and risky (i.e. when you're wasted).
    Artifakt
  • There is nothing new here.

    The vampires at un-planned motherhood don't get it. They love killing babies too much.

    Teenagers are fresh blood to them
    soleil10
  • pfft, Im a guy and I still feel shitty after one-nighters. Sex just doesnt feel right with someone I dont know.
    rpyromaniac
    1 response to this
  • Damn, the Daily Mail is making it that much harder for us nice guys to get lucky.
    CicatrizJCP
    1 response to this
  • how does age/maturity play into this? i've met women so brave as to be liberal in their love life that they are actually empowered by having control over who they want to sleep with and when...and how.

    then there are some who start out like that...but, next thing you know, they start calling and trying to hang out all the time. all of sudden, BOOM! she's got her own toothbrush in the bathroom and you're like, 'NOOOOO!!!!!'
    pressrecord
  • oh yes, i must be some kind of super-freak, i've never felt like a woman is 'supposed' to feel in my entire life

    guilty? me? r u kiddin?

    lol :P
    jade_azul16
  • Casual sex is gross, sorry.
    peenkeefeenger
    2 responses to this
  • I know plenty of straight women who screw around without any guilt. If anything, they were annoyed that so many guys were bad at sex. But they definitely didn't feel guilty for trying.
    VSiskos
  • I say if your ladyfriends feel bad after a casual encounter, point them toward the "Could Sex Save Your Life?" article featured on current just yesterday.
    videogirl_mai
    1 response to this
  • I am a guy and I have felt things once or twice even a few times dealing with sex, I would like to think that it has more to do with the way one is treated in a situation than there sex.
    longstrides
  • These people have not been hanging around the same girls I do, I haven't been able to cook breakfast for a girl in a long time, and I like cooking breakfast.
    longstrides
  • So you mean 42% of women like one night stands? I like those odds.
    dndobson
  • I dont think casual sex is bad...As long as both parties are responsible and that there are no expectations, go for it...
    Also, girls that feel bad about doin' it should stop...If you worry about what people are goin' to think of you, don't do it...But I think there's always a adult and responsible way to deal with such issues (after the act and once you're both sober) thus minimizing any risk and consequences...
    Blackgossbo
  • tell that to prostitutes.
    barkway
  • this seems ironic since as a woman, the only sex that has ever made me feel bad and/or worthless was when i was in a monogomous commited relationship (it was a very off kilter relationship with more downs than ups) casual sex puts me in control, and tell ya what, i dont want it any other way. i gets it when i wants it, and thats it..........am i really a man in a womans body?
    humanpasta
    1 response to this
  • I dunno, I hate the hook-up culture as well. I think most women don't find one-night stands very satisfying. Leaving morality out of it, the fact is that one-night-stand sex isn't usually as good as the sex you have when you're really connected.

    The sex is usually SO so-so, and you end up feeling kinda empty inside. Unless you were clear about it not meaning anything in the first place. Which brings us back to meaningless sex...which is kinda sad. The most intimate physical relationship two people can do to each other ought to mean something, but usually it doesn't in hookup culture.
    Julie_Soller
  • I personally think that casual sex is way too overrated. Are people so hard up to bust a nut that they'll do it at any chance they get? Its like a fucking drug man, it feels good when your doing it, you forget about all of your pains and problems, but when you havnt gotten laid in a few months they're going crazy. Goddamn addicts. There is more to life than meaningless sex.
    And people wonder why this generation has the highest percentage of divorces before age 30. Love is dying, and it has become "cool" to just whore oneself around whenever one's genitals are flaming.
    Im not saying that i would prefer a society of abstinence only sex, but atleast kinda liking or knowing the person you are about to be intimate with would help and prevent lots of problems.
    But anyway, its still gonna keep happening, so wrap it up, and be honest with your partners! ^_^
    thisisonelongname
  • If sex is considered something of value much like precious stones, then the more rare you make it the more it's worth.
    damnneargenius
  • Ladies, ladies, Ladies......until you embrace the fact that MEN, be it in all our glory, are unfortunately bound by hundreds of thousands of years of DNA breeding. Even back in our ancestrial days of our cavemen brothers we were tasked with the daunting and overwhelming tasks of populating the species and our clans alike. You must admit, you just cant simply toss aside over 100,000+ years of on-the-job training just like that! come on! work with us here a little bit! How bout a little understanding! Do we say anything to YOU when you talk about BIOLOGICAL CLOCK TICKING? Well?....Do We?
    tmaster
    3 responses to this
  • i'm glad that there's finally empirical evidence of culturally influenced gender roles. now i have all the argumentative powers i ever needed to convince that girl from My Boys that she isn't a real woman. i bet she isn't....
    oneofthree
  • watch this comment being used here, here, here, here and here
    bleh maybe if the world didn't make me feel like shit for even having a dirty thought, I would not feel so inclined to regret enjoying myself and my sexuality.
    samonster34
  • why is sex and aggression the one thing men can't seem to shake from their basic evolutionary form? It's convenient and it feels good. Whatever. That sentence should just read "Woman can't {do anything} like men" and they will have made their point without an entire article. I am haxing sex, and I am feeling awesome about it!
    samonster34
  • Not ok. I love sex but I'm a lady about it. Find the finest gentleman and fuck the shit out of him.
    Emilimi
    1 response to this
  • this is such bullshit, just like some men can't do it with out feeling bad, and some can, it's the same with women. You can't lump as into categories based on our genders, we're all human and each human is different, wether they have the same sexual organs or not.